Please understand...We are also ARMY strong

As I was reading a blog today I realized how strong a soldierette has to be to while her soldier is away and has to show that strength, regardless of how sad we may be inside. I want to make sure everyone understands just because our soldier is away and we are here able to watch TV, talk and see our friends and family on a daily basis, go shopping, watch movies etc..it isn't any easier for us. We have to do all these things we would rather do with our soldier or use to do with our soldier that isn't possible for the time being. You see couples holding hands walking, kissing looking into each others eyes. We cant do that. It just may be harder for a woman waiting than her soldier. Her soldier is on assignment working busy at all times of day. They think about us, they miss us, they love us just as we do. But we have more time to think and miss and the more the harder it is.

But..that one txt or call telling you he misses you or is thinking about you is enough to hold you for the week, weeks or months. We get those butterflies in our tummy every time we see his name pop up on our phone. We just melt inside, we smile for the whole day. We cry tears of joy. I sometimes feel like our relationship is stronger while he is away. We don't have time to argue about petty stuff, we realize that we need to take the time we do have to talk about the good things and stay positive and focused for our relationship. We tend to show more of our love in more creative ways. We have the urgency to seeing each other again as if it was that first date all over again. The anticipation builds up inside and that is exciting in it self. We think of  all the good things we have been through with each other and think of all the good things we want to go through with each other.

Yes it is hard, you miss him like crazy and sometimes feel very lonely and upset that he didn't call for 3 days, a week or even two weeks. You wonder is he even thinking about me? then why wouldn't he call? Cant he go to the bathroom and just send a quick text? or send me a quick letter/note that's all we want to keep us going, that's all we need in reality. We don't have to talk to them for a week and the simple tone of his voice calling you "babe", or your name is enough to help you hang on for just another week.

The thing is that is it sometimes hard for our soldiers to hear our voices or find out that we went to the park, went to family gatherings or even watched a movie without them. Kinda sucks for them to know we are living a life without them while they are away... They are happy that they have us but still have the what if's ...

•       what if she finds someone else
•       what if she cant wait for me
•       what if this is too much for her
•       what if she isn't strong enough.
•       What if....

they tend to try and block this out of their minds while away because they need to be focused. We as their soldierettes have to be strong for them and let them know and show it.

• We wont find someone else because for the past month you have been on my mind,
• we can wait just you wait and see,
• it isn't too much for me it would be too much for me if you weren't in my life period,
•  and I'm strong yes I cry from time to time but crying is good we cry because we miss the Happy times we miss you we don't cry because your gone. If I didnt cry I wouldnt care.

Trust me its sometimes harder for us as soldierettes while they are away. Its a hard position but we know we wouldn't trade it in for anything else. We know it is all worth it as hard as it is. When you go through this and it becomes part of your life you know that it is and always will be your life. You get stronger and stronger as you go. My soldier will be gone for 10 days this month and that to me is nothing...while 75 days is scary for other women 75 days is nothing because their soldier has been gone for way longer than that.

We need to support each other, many other women don't know why we do what we do (wait). But we do and we know what type of support we need. I cant wait to have more followers and to be able to follow more of you... so far im very encouraged just by reading two blogs and having these soldierettes responding.

Im here for any other soldierette that needs support, advice, guidance just as I will need from you.

Melissa the Soldierette