Someone reached out to me about my blog and a recent post and I decided to follow her post has to do with my same situation. Military Girlfriend and I encourage you to follow her to, her recent post about Memorial Day is amazing...
Thank you!
Melissa the Soldierette
Friday, May 17, 2013
Thursday, May 16, 2013
Please understand...We are also ARMY strong
As I was reading a blog today I realized how strong a soldierette has to be to while her soldier is away and has to show that strength, regardless of how sad we may be inside. I want to make sure everyone understands just because our soldier is away and we are here able to watch TV, talk and see our friends and family on a daily basis, go shopping, watch movies etc..it isn't any easier for us. We have to do all these things we would rather do with our soldier or use to do with our soldier that isn't possible for the time being. You see couples holding hands walking, kissing looking into each others eyes. We cant do that. It just may be harder for a woman waiting than her soldier. Her soldier is on assignment working busy at all times of day. They think about us, they miss us, they love us just as we do. But we have more time to think and miss and the more the harder it is.
But..that one txt or call telling you he misses you or is thinking about you is enough to hold you for the week, weeks or months. We get those butterflies in our tummy every time we see his name pop up on our phone. We just melt inside, we smile for the whole day. We cry tears of joy. I sometimes feel like our relationship is stronger while he is away. We don't have time to argue about petty stuff, we realize that we need to take the time we do have to talk about the good things and stay positive and focused for our relationship. We tend to show more of our love in more creative ways. We have the urgency to seeing each other again as if it was that first date all over again. The anticipation builds up inside and that is exciting in it self. We think of all the good things we have been through with each other and think of all the good things we want to go through with each other.
Yes it is hard, you miss him like crazy and sometimes feel very lonely and upset that he didn't call for 3 days, a week or even two weeks. You wonder is he even thinking about me? then why wouldn't he call? Cant he go to the bathroom and just send a quick text? or send me a quick letter/note that's all we want to keep us going, that's all we need in reality. We don't have to talk to them for a week and the simple tone of his voice calling you "babe", or your name is enough to help you hang on for just another week.
The thing is that is it sometimes hard for our soldiers to hear our voices or find out that we went to the park, went to family gatherings or even watched a movie without them. Kinda sucks for them to know we are living a life without them while they are away... They are happy that they have us but still have the what if's ...
Trust me its sometimes harder for us as soldierettes while they are away. Its a hard position but we know we wouldn't trade it in for anything else. We know it is all worth it as hard as it is. When you go through this and it becomes part of your life you know that it is and always will be your life. You get stronger and stronger as you go. My soldier will be gone for 10 days this month and that to me is nothing...while 75 days is scary for other women 75 days is nothing because their soldier has been gone for way longer than that.
We need to support each other, many other women don't know why we do what we do (wait). But we do and we know what type of support we need. I cant wait to have more followers and to be able to follow more of you... so far im very encouraged just by reading two blogs and having these soldierettes responding.
Im here for any other soldierette that needs support, advice, guidance just as I will need from you.
Melissa the Soldierette
But..that one txt or call telling you he misses you or is thinking about you is enough to hold you for the week, weeks or months. We get those butterflies in our tummy every time we see his name pop up on our phone. We just melt inside, we smile for the whole day. We cry tears of joy. I sometimes feel like our relationship is stronger while he is away. We don't have time to argue about petty stuff, we realize that we need to take the time we do have to talk about the good things and stay positive and focused for our relationship. We tend to show more of our love in more creative ways. We have the urgency to seeing each other again as if it was that first date all over again. The anticipation builds up inside and that is exciting in it self. We think of all the good things we have been through with each other and think of all the good things we want to go through with each other.
Yes it is hard, you miss him like crazy and sometimes feel very lonely and upset that he didn't call for 3 days, a week or even two weeks. You wonder is he even thinking about me? then why wouldn't he call? Cant he go to the bathroom and just send a quick text? or send me a quick letter/note that's all we want to keep us going, that's all we need in reality. We don't have to talk to them for a week and the simple tone of his voice calling you "babe", or your name is enough to help you hang on for just another week.
The thing is that is it sometimes hard for our soldiers to hear our voices or find out that we went to the park, went to family gatherings or even watched a movie without them. Kinda sucks for them to know we are living a life without them while they are away... They are happy that they have us but still have the what if's ...
- what if she finds someone else
- what if she cant wait for me
- what if this is too much for her
- what if she isn't strong enough.
- What if....
- We wont find someone else because for the past month you have been on my mind,
- we can wait just you wait and see,
- it isn't too much for me it would be too much for me if you weren't in my life period,
- and I'm strong yes I cry from time to time but crying is good we cry because we miss the Happy times we miss you we don't cry because your gone. If I didnt cry I wouldnt care.
Trust me its sometimes harder for us as soldierettes while they are away. Its a hard position but we know we wouldn't trade it in for anything else. We know it is all worth it as hard as it is. When you go through this and it becomes part of your life you know that it is and always will be your life. You get stronger and stronger as you go. My soldier will be gone for 10 days this month and that to me is nothing...while 75 days is scary for other women 75 days is nothing because their soldier has been gone for way longer than that.
We need to support each other, many other women don't know why we do what we do (wait). But we do and we know what type of support we need. I cant wait to have more followers and to be able to follow more of you... so far im very encouraged just by reading two blogs and having these soldierettes responding.
Im here for any other soldierette that needs support, advice, guidance just as I will need from you.
Melissa the Soldierette
Wednesday, May 15, 2013
As I was looking at this picture on my blog and I remebered how I was so upset the day of my garduation because my boyfriend has been basically the only one that has pushed me and has been there for me in my tough timest through school and he couldnt make it. I am working two jobs, have two kids, school and a household. He was always there to tell me how proud of me he was and is. When we found out he had an assignment and could not get out of it, I was sad. Devestated. I was wondering why the ONE day I really need him there. I am used to not having him around for ceratin events but this..this was different. I needed him there. I was so sad but had to be happy at the same time. He knew it but I couldnt whine or be mad about it and show him my sadness because this is what I choose to put up with. I knew things like this would happen. BUT what does he do? He leads his soldiers to finish their work early, drives as fast (as he can of course) just to make it to my graduation. He fought to be there and I just want to thank my soldier for that because that meant a lot. Showing up to my graduation was the best gift I received that day. <3 my Soldier!
Here are some very accurate quotes:
- "I have promised to be here for him upon his return no matter how long he is away. They may say I am insane for making such a commitment, but I hold onto our promises and have faith that he will come home safe. I know well that my love for him fuels him in the worst of times"
- "There is no ring on my finger to symbolize our commitment, though I love him no less for it. I hope every day that he will be able to call because a simple 30-second phone call can bring the greatest spectrum of emotions smiling with tears in my eyes from so much joy and pain. My relationship is based on a brief communication where I love you and I’m okay speaks more than volumes and gives me the strength to keep going"
- "I have promised to be here for him upon his return no matter how long he is away. They may say I am insane for making such a commitment, but I hold onto our promises and have faith that he will come home safe. I know well that my love for him fuels him in the worst of times"
- "There is no ring on my finger to symbolize our commitment, though I love him no less for it. I hope every day that he will be able to call because a simple 30-second phone call can bring the greatest spectrum of emotions smiling with tears in my eyes from so much joy and pain. My relationship is based on a brief communication where I love you and I’m okay speaks more than volumes and gives me the strength to keep going"
Tuesday, May 14, 2013
I dislike the taste of bitter -sweet
Well for the past two months we have been waiting and my boyfriend has been working hard to obtain a great opportunity/assignment that was delivered to him. He had to go through a lot of paper work,calls and favors but he got the orders, he will be leaving for 75 days!!! this is the longest we will not be able to see each other thus far. The time keeps going through my mind 75 days, 75 days all summer long, all summer long...
The sweet part- the pay will be very helpful and the opportunities and networking he will be able to do is beyond amazing. He will be with Officers the entire time as they go through a training. This will be good for him to be able to network with officers see what they have gone through to get there and get advise, possibly help from them to move along quicker in that direction. In the Army this is possibly the easiest and best way to move up, by the people you know and the favors they can do.
Hes been so nervous waiting and waiting for his orders. He could not breathe until he saw his orders. He would check his email on a minute to minute basis-seriously! I on the other hand was like if he doesn't go whew I can see him but then the possibilities this event can take him will be lost. So I had to suck it up and pray with him to get these orders...and he did and my reaction was exactly bitter sweet! but he is excited and cant wait. He leaves sooner than we thought. I will miss him greatly!I miss him just thinking about it.
Wait, who's is going to cut my grass?
Melissa The Soldierette
The sweet part- the pay will be very helpful and the opportunities and networking he will be able to do is beyond amazing. He will be with Officers the entire time as they go through a training. This will be good for him to be able to network with officers see what they have gone through to get there and get advise, possibly help from them to move along quicker in that direction. In the Army this is possibly the easiest and best way to move up, by the people you know and the favors they can do.
Hes been so nervous waiting and waiting for his orders. He could not breathe until he saw his orders. He would check his email on a minute to minute basis-seriously! I on the other hand was like if he doesn't go whew I can see him but then the possibilities this event can take him will be lost. So I had to suck it up and pray with him to get these orders...and he did and my reaction was exactly bitter sweet! but he is excited and cant wait. He leaves sooner than we thought. I will miss him greatly!I miss him just thinking about it.
Wait, who's is going to cut my grass?
Melissa The Soldierette
Wednesday, May 8, 2013
Entering the world of the Army life...
My boyfriend Tony of 3.5 years decided to get back into the Army about 2.5 years ago. He was in the Army previously for 6 years two tours in Iraq rigth after 9/11. I knew him from high school so I knew of this accomplishment what I did not know was that he is destined for this career. You see he left the Army, launched a couple businesses including a bar then started to train to become a firefighter. I noticed he wasn't happy. One day I said to him, "maybe you should get back into the Army, that seems where you belong." Sure enough right after that he started to get back in. Now hes in the reserves, has been promoted twice is now Staff Sargent and going for his main goal; Warrant Officer.
It was very obvious the Army is where he is happy. He did not choose this career, this career chose him. I had not really known anyone who was in the Army or at least was not close to a person who was in the military. I did not know much about the military world. All I knew is that I would see my soldier in that uniform and be so proud of him. He told me once, "Military life isn't easy for girlfriends and wives." I said ha its easy for me you wait and see. Well... then he started actually leaving. At first it was only a couple weekends a month, then he was assigned to different assignments for 5 days. 10 days the next time. Two weeks the time after that. 3 weeks after that. In October 2012 he was able to participate in Combative training in Fort Benning, GA. he was gone for a month. Do you know what happens in combative training III? It's basically MMA fighting.
I was proud, scared, excited, alone, confused and happy all at the same time. He has been waiting for opportunities to come up and they have but at one point he was tired of waiting so he came to me and asked what I thought about him going Active Duty. I asked if he may be deployed and he said yes. I said don't do it. I was selfish, I did not want him to ever go back there. I took a step back and realized he is so good at his job and he would be great. Not just anyone can go to war. He can. He has it in him. I started to research this army life. Wrote papers about PTSD something that hit close to home, and relationship issues within military spouses for classes I was taking. But what I have been looking for is for other army/military girlfriends or wives who I can speak to and who can give me pointers, ideas, words of wisdom, referrals, advice and support.
So here I am blogging about my entry world into the military world. Hope to find support and communicate with people who can understand me and guide me. As I will them as well.
Everyday is something new with the Army so im sure I will have a lot to post!
Thank you for visiting and hope to see more of you..
Melissa The New Soldierette
It was very obvious the Army is where he is happy. He did not choose this career, this career chose him. I had not really known anyone who was in the Army or at least was not close to a person who was in the military. I did not know much about the military world. All I knew is that I would see my soldier in that uniform and be so proud of him. He told me once, "Military life isn't easy for girlfriends and wives." I said ha its easy for me you wait and see. Well... then he started actually leaving. At first it was only a couple weekends a month, then he was assigned to different assignments for 5 days. 10 days the next time. Two weeks the time after that. 3 weeks after that. In October 2012 he was able to participate in Combative training in Fort Benning, GA. he was gone for a month. Do you know what happens in combative training III? It's basically MMA fighting.
I was proud, scared, excited, alone, confused and happy all at the same time. He has been waiting for opportunities to come up and they have but at one point he was tired of waiting so he came to me and asked what I thought about him going Active Duty. I asked if he may be deployed and he said yes. I said don't do it. I was selfish, I did not want him to ever go back there. I took a step back and realized he is so good at his job and he would be great. Not just anyone can go to war. He can. He has it in him. I started to research this army life. Wrote papers about PTSD something that hit close to home, and relationship issues within military spouses for classes I was taking. But what I have been looking for is for other army/military girlfriends or wives who I can speak to and who can give me pointers, ideas, words of wisdom, referrals, advice and support.
So here I am blogging about my entry world into the military world. Hope to find support and communicate with people who can understand me and guide me. As I will them as well.
Everyday is something new with the Army so im sure I will have a lot to post!
Thank you for visiting and hope to see more of you..
Melissa The New Soldierette
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