Surprise!

My hunny tells me hes coming home early meaning tomorrow. It's been a week I'm excited to see him. I rush home to start cleaning so the house is nice and clean and comfortable for him. He text me he needs me to email him a document from our computer so I'm rushing home. I get home I noticed the gate is closed the garage smells like flowers and my door from the garage to the laundry room is locked (I forgot to lock it when I left earlier that day) I'm like hhhhmm I walk in and he's there!! Surprise!!! My baby is home...he took whatever flight he can get to get back home and see me. ( others weren't so lucky) he was determined...I was really surprised I loved it....little bit in shock ...good shock. We had great conversation. Missed him even if it was only for a week! Love my soldier. Melissa the soldierette

Melts my heart...

So my soldier just sent me a text with this song :

Here are some lyrics by metrolyrics.com,

Soulja Boy Tell 'Em
Baby you know that I miss you, I wanna get with you tonight 

 But I cannot baby girl and that's the issue  

Girl you know I miss you, I just wanna kiss you  

But I can't right now so baby kiss me thru the phone, 

I'll see you later on

Kiss me thru the phone, see you when I get home

 
Baby I know that you like me, 

you my future wifey Soulja Boy Tell 'Em, 

yeah You can be my Bonnie, I can be your Clyde  

You could be my wife, text me, call me
I need you in my life, yeah all day everyday I need ya  

And every time I see ya my feelings get deeper 

I miss ya, I miss ya, I really wanna kiss you but I can't...

...Baby I been thinking lately so much about you 

 Everything about you, I like it, I love it 

Kissing you in public, thinking nothing of it 

 Roses by the dozen, talking on the phone
Baby you so sexy, your voice is so lovely 

 I love your complexion, I miss ya, I miss ya, I miss ya I really wanna kiss you but I can't

I love it!! brings tears to my eyes...

Melissa The Soldierette

A little taste..

Hello My Soldierettes,

So my soldier has been gone for a few days only for a week but its giving me a little taste of whats to come. The thing is, is that its only a week so I can handle a week pretty well. Its sort of like we need that time apart since we live together. The funny part and the nice part is that I was upset at him before he left. We went to bed mad but all it took was knowing that he was leaving and a hug while we are sleeping for me to get over it. I was so dumb arguing over something that was really nothing and when I say argue it was only me arguing and he let it go so easily. It feels good to be home and he is working and we are both okay and happy with each other. I left a little note in his uniform pocket and I don't think he has found it yet!

I just want to say that with our soldiers little petty things aren't worth the argument or getting mad. I know we sometimes do we are women its in is naturally but lets just take some time to think about it and let it go (unless its something really really bad). We have to be strong women to be in a relationship with soldiers. It is a different relationship and it really is ARMY strong relationship well in my case at least...I also include every branch. The bond, the trust is a lot greater than any other relationship..and that is hard to find.

Stay tuned for my next post it may be interesting to read especially if your a soldierette...

Here is my soldier getting ready to leave for the week! <3

Haha caught you baby!!

He's leaving : ( I need Ideas...

So my soldier is leaving soon for 75 days...ugh 75 days...anyway. I wanted to do something for him. I need some ideas. You see when he leaves even if its for his 4 days out of the month training he does things to show me that he is thinking about me. The last thing he did before he left for a week was write on our bathroom mirror " I love you" with a washable marker. You know what was crazy was that I didn't see it right away until the third day. But guess what, I had just had a dream where I woke up and he was next to me then I woke up and he wasn't. I went into the bathroom took a shower came out and saw that. Made my entire day nothing could have turned my day around after that. Its little things even little jokes. One time he took out cereal from MY cereal box and switched it with his a more less tasteful one I went to pour the cereal in a bowl and out came his cereal. I wasn't mad I was crying of joy, couldn't stop laughing. He got me, he took the time to play that little joke on me knowing I don't always eat cereal and that I will notice later rather than sooner (weird to put it this way huh?). That is how he is and that is how WE became.

He tells me he doesn't like to call because its hard for him, it isn't that he doesn't want to talk to me its just harder for him to be able to focus on what he needs to focus on. So I was thinking maybe I can write him a daily journal of what happened on my day, what I dreamt about, what I ate, how I missed him like crazy. Maybe even weekly video blogs/journals. When he comes home he can see that I was thinking about him the entire time he was gone. He will see that my day isn't a good day without him in it and every day he will be in it even though he is gone. (confusing??) you know what I mean.

So I also plan to blog daily about whatever jokes or songs he sends me..when he has the chance to.
What do you think will this daily journal be a sweet idea?

Thank you,
Melissa The Soldierette.

An Appreciated Blog

Someone reached out to me about my blog and a recent post and I decided to follow her post has to do with my same situation. Military Girlfriend and I encourage you to follow her to, her recent post about Memorial Day is amazing...



Thank you!
Melissa the Soldierette

Please understand...We are also ARMY strong

As I was reading a blog today I realized how strong a soldierette has to be to while her soldier is away and has to show that strength, regardless of how sad we may be inside. I want to make sure everyone understands just because our soldier is away and we are here able to watch TV, talk and see our friends and family on a daily basis, go shopping, watch movies etc..it isn't any easier for us. We have to do all these things we would rather do with our soldier or use to do with our soldier that isn't possible for the time being. You see couples holding hands walking, kissing looking into each others eyes. We cant do that. It just may be harder for a woman waiting than her soldier. Her soldier is on assignment working busy at all times of day. They think about us, they miss us, they love us just as we do. But we have more time to think and miss and the more the harder it is.

But..that one txt or call telling you he misses you or is thinking about you is enough to hold you for the week, weeks or months. We get those butterflies in our tummy every time we see his name pop up on our phone. We just melt inside, we smile for the whole day. We cry tears of joy. I sometimes feel like our relationship is stronger while he is away. We don't have time to argue about petty stuff, we realize that we need to take the time we do have to talk about the good things and stay positive and focused for our relationship. We tend to show more of our love in more creative ways. We have the urgency to seeing each other again as if it was that first date all over again. The anticipation builds up inside and that is exciting in it self. We think of  all the good things we have been through with each other and think of all the good things we want to go through with each other.

Yes it is hard, you miss him like crazy and sometimes feel very lonely and upset that he didn't call for 3 days, a week or even two weeks. You wonder is he even thinking about me? then why wouldn't he call? Cant he go to the bathroom and just send a quick text? or send me a quick letter/note that's all we want to keep us going, that's all we need in reality. We don't have to talk to them for a week and the simple tone of his voice calling you "babe", or your name is enough to help you hang on for just another week.

The thing is that is it sometimes hard for our soldiers to hear our voices or find out that we went to the park, went to family gatherings or even watched a movie without them. Kinda sucks for them to know we are living a life without them while they are away... They are happy that they have us but still have the what if's ...

•       what if she finds someone else
•       what if she cant wait for me
•       what if this is too much for her
•       what if she isn't strong enough.
•       What if....

they tend to try and block this out of their minds while away because they need to be focused. We as their soldierettes have to be strong for them and let them know and show it.

• We wont find someone else because for the past month you have been on my mind,
• we can wait just you wait and see,
• it isn't too much for me it would be too much for me if you weren't in my life period,
•  and I'm strong yes I cry from time to time but crying is good we cry because we miss the Happy times we miss you we don't cry because your gone. If I didnt cry I wouldnt care.

Trust me its sometimes harder for us as soldierettes while they are away. Its a hard position but we know we wouldn't trade it in for anything else. We know it is all worth it as hard as it is. When you go through this and it becomes part of your life you know that it is and always will be your life. You get stronger and stronger as you go. My soldier will be gone for 10 days this month and that to me is nothing...while 75 days is scary for other women 75 days is nothing because their soldier has been gone for way longer than that.

We need to support each other, many other women don't know why we do what we do (wait). But we do and we know what type of support we need. I cant wait to have more followers and to be able to follow more of you... so far im very encouraged just by reading two blogs and having these soldierettes responding.

Im here for any other soldierette that needs support, advice, guidance just as I will need from you.

Melissa the Soldierette

As I was looking at this picture on my blog and I remebered how I was so upset the day of my garduation because my boyfriend has been basically the only one that has pushed me and has been there for me in my tough timest through school and he couldnt make it. I am working two jobs, have two kids, school and a household. He was always there to tell me how proud of me he was and is. When we found out he had an assignment and could not get out of it, I was sad. Devestated. I was wondering why the ONE day I really need him there. I am used to not having him around for ceratin events but this..this was different. I needed him there. I was so sad but had to be happy at the same time. He knew it but I couldnt whine or be mad about it and show him my sadness because this is what I choose to put up with. I knew things like this would happen. BUT what does he do? He leads his soldiers to finish their work early, drives as fast (as he can of course) just to make it to my graduation. He fought to be there and I just want to thank my soldier for that because that meant a lot. Showing up to my graduation was the best gift I received that day. <3 my Soldier!

Here are some very accurate quotes:

- "I have promised to be here for him upon his return no matter how long he is away. They may say I am insane for making such a commitment, but I hold onto our promises and have faith that he will come home safe. I know well that my love for him fuels him in the worst of times"

- "There is no ring on my finger to symbolize our commitment, though I love him no less for it. I hope every day that he will be able to call because a simple 30-second phone call can bring the greatest spectrum of emotions smiling with tears in my eyes from so much joy and pain. My relationship is based on a brief communication where I love you and I’m okay speaks more than volumes and gives me the strength to keep going"

I dislike the taste of bitter -sweet

Well for the past two months we have been waiting and my boyfriend has been working hard to obtain a great opportunity/assignment that was delivered to him. He had to go through a lot of paper work,calls and favors but he got the orders, he will be leaving for 75 days!!!  this is the longest we will not be able to see each other thus far. The time keeps going through my mind 75 days, 75 days all summer long, all summer long...

The sweet part- the pay will be very helpful and the opportunities and networking he will be able to do is beyond amazing. He will be with Officers the entire time as they go through a training. This will be good for him to be able to network with officers see what they have gone through to get there and get advise, possibly help from them to move along quicker in that direction. In the Army this is possibly the easiest and best way to move up, by the people you know and the favors they can do.

Hes been so nervous waiting and waiting for his orders. He could not breathe until he saw his orders. He would check his email on a minute to minute basis-seriously! I on the other hand was like if he doesn't go whew I can see him but then the possibilities this event can take him will be lost. So I had to suck it up and pray with him to get these orders...and he did and my reaction was exactly bitter sweet! but he is excited and cant wait. He leaves sooner than we thought. I will miss him greatly!I miss him just thinking about it.

Wait, who's is going to cut my grass?
Melissa The Soldierette

Entering the world of the Army life...

My boyfriend Tony of 3.5 years decided to get back into the Army about 2.5 years ago. He was in the Army previously for 6 years two tours in Iraq rigth after 9/11. I knew him from high school so I knew of this accomplishment what I did not know was that he is destined for this career. You see he left the Army, launched a couple businesses including a bar then started to train to become a firefighter. I noticed he wasn't happy. One day I said to him, "maybe you should get back into the Army, that seems where you belong." Sure enough right after that he started to get back in. Now hes in the reserves, has been promoted twice is now Staff Sargent and going for his main goal; Warrant Officer.

It was very obvious the Army is where he is happy. He did not choose this career, this career chose him. I had not really known anyone who was in the Army or at least was not close to a person who was in the military. I did not know much about the military world. All I knew is that I would see my soldier in that uniform and be so proud of him. He told me once, "Military life isn't easy for girlfriends and wives." I said ha its easy for me you wait and see. Well... then he started actually leaving. At first it was only a couple weekends a month, then he was assigned to different assignments for 5 days. 10 days the next time. Two weeks the time after that. 3 weeks after that. In October 2012 he was able to participate in Combative training in Fort Benning, GA. he was gone for a month. Do you know what happens in combative training III? It's basically MMA fighting.

I was proud, scared, excited, alone, confused and happy all at the same time. He has been waiting for opportunities to come up and they have but at one point he was tired of waiting so he came to me and asked what I thought about him going Active Duty. I asked if he may be deployed and he said yes. I said don't do it. I was selfish, I did not want him to ever go back there. I took a step back and realized he is so good at his job and he would be great. Not just anyone can go to war. He can. He has it in him. I started to research this army life. Wrote papers about PTSD something that hit close to home, and relationship issues within military spouses for classes I was taking. But what I have been looking for is for other army/military girlfriends or wives who I can speak to and who can give me pointers, ideas, words of wisdom, referrals, advice and support.

So here I am blogging about my entry world into the military world. Hope to find support and communicate with people who can understand me and guide me. As I will them as well.
Everyday is something new with the Army so im sure I will have a lot to post!

Thank you for visiting and hope to see more of you..

Melissa The New Soldierette